4. Chronic Seeking of External Validation
An endless quest to fill an inner void. Without internalized love, you may look for worth everywhere else:
Overworking for praise or recognition.
Staying in unfulfilling relationships for crumbs of attention.
Feeling “not enough” no matter what you achieve.
An underlying sense of emptiness, even during success.
5. High Sensitivity to Emotional Atmospheres
You became an expert in reading rooms. Children in emotionally neglectful homes often become hyper-vigilant to nonverbal cues to stay safe. As an adult, this can mean:
Absorbing the moods of others.
Feeling responsible for managing others’ emotions.
Extreme discomfort with tension or conflict.
A deep-seated fear of “causing” someone’s displeasure.
6. Struggles with Self-Compassion
Kindness to others, criticism for yourself. You may extend immense grace to friends but treat yourself with harshness. This includes:
A relentless inner critic.
Difficulty soothing yourself in times of distress.
Feeling guilty for prioritizing self-care.
Believing you must “earn” rest or kindness.
